.Look at yourself first what sort of person you are? Then see if you are qualified to tackleLGBT have ceased to be Muslims when they become a LGBT and books are books for education. What is there to ease the fear of Muslims? Books do not cause confusion. Its some Muslims who are confused. That is the truthIt’s another ploy how BN diverts the attention from all the corrupt practices that have been brought forth and attack the LGBT matter.
Dear Mom and Dad,
I was filling out an application the other day. It asked me what I felt my greatest accomplishment thus far was. I thought for a moment and answered that I am most proud of surviving all that came with coming out to you as a lesbian.
I am an adult and a college student with a job and a life apart from you. I’ve been told that I don’t need you, and for the most part I rarely think about your absence. I have said before that I sometimes forget that I ever had parents; my life is too busy to dwell. Part of that is denial, isn’t it? Being 20 years old hardly makes me an adult, and one always needs family, no matter his or her age.
I have lost friends, extended family and mentors as a result of coming out, but all those are secondary to parents. Friends come and go, extended family move about and expand, and mentors are replaced as one ages, but parents are needed. My first mature relationship, my first heartbreak, when friends turn on me, my big adventures, my successes and failures — I want to share these experiences with you. I’m supposed to share them with you. I want you to be the first to know about my engagement. I want you to help me with the wedding planning. I want you to come with me to pick out my dress. I want you, Dad, to walk me down the aisle. I want you to be excited when my wife and I announce that we’re expecting your grandchildren. I want you to be there when those children arrive.
But you won’t be. You will turn up your nose, as you have done since I came out, and as you will continue to do. You will be somewhere in Tennessee, ranting about my sins, while my brother and older sister take your place at all these milestones.
I have always been a hardheaded, independent kid who never quite fit into the conservative, legalistic Christian box you had set up for me. Maybe it was easy for you to step away from me. You have to understand: I have spent most of my life attempting to run away from myself. The first thing I was ever told about homosexuality came from you, Dad. You were explaining that I couldn’t join Girl Scouts because “they let homosexuals be den mothers.” You elaborated, “Do you know what homosexuals do, Shura? They rape children.” I was 8. Several months earlier I had been introduced to rape by a monster in a rest-stop bathroom outside Savannah. I didn’t want to be a monster.
And if the sermons and radio programs that I was constantly hearing were correct, I didn’t want to go to hell, either. Everything in our conservative Christian world was telling me that I was disgusting, perverted, ruining America and dangerous to children. I hated myself. I was willing to do anything to get away from myself, including suicide.
Yes, I was a difficult child. I wasn’t easy to raise, or easy to love. And in the years leading up to my coming out, I was perhaps the most difficult.
You may not have suspected that I was anything but straight, but others did. From 15 to 17, when I wasn’t living with you, I had few friends. Instead, girls would loudly accuse me of looking at them in a sexual way, called me “dyke,” “fag” and “lez.” They would strip down in front of me just to accuse me of masturbating to the image later. The harassment culminated in a month during which two girls would slip into my bed at night, pin me down and sexually assault me, all while whispering in my ear, “You like this, don’t you, dyke?” I didn’t feel like I could tell anyone about any of it, because I didn’t want the subject of my sexuality to come up. I thought it would be written off because of the suspicions.
I was right. When I came out to you last year, that was one of the first things out of your mouth. “Why did you whine about those girls?” you demanded. “Didn’t you like it, girls touching you? You like that. Why did you pitch a fit about it?”
Let me provide you with an answer: I didn’t deserve it. I didn’t deserve believing that I was disgusting, a monster or going to hell because of others’ ignorance and hatred. I didn’t deserve being ostracized and harassed because of others’ ignorance and hatred. I didn’t deserve to have my body violated because of others’ ignorance and hatred. And I didn’t deserve to lose you because of your ignorance and hatred. But all those things happened to me.
As a result, I have grown up. I have learned to stand on my own two feet and keep myself from being affected by others’ actions. I have learned to be confident in myself. I have learned that in life there are hard choices to be made, and I have learned to make them. I have learned to rely not on others for my validation but on myself. I have learned to love myself.
My life is not always easy, partially because of your absence from it. How I am going to pay for college and where I am going to go on school breaks are constant worries. But you are the ones who are truly missing out. I will do great things. I will bring about positive change in this world. I will have a beautiful life. I’m quite convinced that my future kids will be adorable and ridiculously cool. You will miss out on all that.
I feel sorry for you. Your hatred, your ignorance and your fear are blinding you and took away your daughter. I will not dwell on this. I have living to do.
With all my love, Shura
There are many famous tales of lovers whose romance ended in tragedy. If Romeo and Juliet is the most famous one, perhaps Sada Abe might be seen as one of the most infamous. In 1936 she killed her lover Kichio Izida, by strangling him with her belt, days after many heated love-making sessions in which the pair had repeatedly used their belts to cut off each other’s breathing to intensify orgasm. After Izida’s death she cut off his penis and testicles and carried them around in her handbag for three days until the police finally caught up with her. Maybe this was taking a good time just a little too far. Yet to me, as a paleontologist — one who studies the past life of the planet — the ultimate link between sex and death is evolution. Calls for an Islamic Affairs Ministry is a good idea, said Minister in the Prime Minister’s Department Datuk Seri Jamil Khir Baharom.
He said such a ministry could tackle issues like demands for extreme individual rights such as lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) lifestyles and ease the worries of Muslims on matters conflicting with Islamic teachings as in the case of books that could cause confusion.There must be a distinction between muslim-LBGT and Free People-LBGT. Free People may have religions that also ‘contradict’ LBGT lifestyles but we tend to subscribe to human rights of individuals, equality in civil entitlement regardless of sexual orientation, and the “love your neighbour” principles. In short, we don’t hunt them down to deliberately discriminate. Worst case, they are free to leave their religion.
“I personally agree that such a ministry be set up because of the pressure and attacks happening lately against the religion,” Jamil Khir (picture) said when winding up debate on the Supply Bill 2013 in the Dewan Rakyat today.
However, he said the government was of the view that agencies and departments related to Islam were more suited to be placed under the Prime Minister’s Department so that programmes and activities for Muslims could be more effectively implemented.
Datuk Taib Azamudden Md Taib (PAS-Baling) had raised the matter during the debate while Malays right wing movement Perkasa had made a similar call in August last year.
This ministry has misplaced their priority: LGBT is NOT a major issue, CORRUPTION is. The former is more personal but the latter is NOT only HARAM but also affecting almost everyone in the country. You have fallen roof of stadium, leaking roof at airport, incomplete hospitals, poorly completed houses for armed forces, RM40.0 mio “donation to UMNO Sabah”, inflated cost in procuremnet and many many more …..
The ministry should send these people for traing and put fear on the consequence of makan duit haram !
All life depends upon reproduction to survive, and through the passing on of genetic material, sex ensures constant evolutionary change. One question that has intrigued me is whether fossils, the remains of past life, can actually inform us about the early beginnings of sexual behavior. For a fossil to reveal that much information it must be extremely well-preserved, something that died in the prime of its reproductive life. A swift death followed by rapid burial would ensure the animal is preserved in all its glory. By a stroke of unbelievably good luck we did manage to eventually discover such a rare fossil.In 2005 my team was searching the remote northern deserts of Australia for 380 million year old fish fossils. Working out the searing hot sun, avoiding the odd death adder in the long grass, we dutifully struck rocks with large sledge hammers hoping to reveal hidden treasures of the past. A fossil after all is an intimate record of a life once lived. The site is famous for its exceptional three-dimensional preservation of the fish skeletons and rare preservation of mineralized soft tissues, such as muscle bundles, nerve cells and even intact stomachs. That year we discovered a unique fossil fish that would lead to us redefining the nature and timing of the origins of copulatory sex in our ancient back-boned ancestors (from fishes to mammals are all ‘vertebrates’ after all).
Back in my lab I prepared one such fish, a new species of bone-plated placoderms, an extinct group akin to the dinosaurs of the fish world. These sit at the very base of the evolutionary tree of all jawed vertebrates. We study them because they provide insights into the very origin of certain anatomical systems, such as when legs first appeared in our distant ancestors. Placoderms were the first vertebrates to have paired rear fins, structures that would eventually develop into the hind legs found all land animals. As the bones slowly emerged from the rocks I noticed a peculiar set of tiny bones inside the body cavity of the fish. Then, straining down my microscope, the penny dropped inside my head and I experienced one of the most sublime eureka moments of my career. I recognized the tiny bones of an unborn embryo inside the mother, still joined by a twisted fossilized umbilical cord. This discovery pushed back the fossil evidence for live birth by almost 200 million years, but more significantly meant that these ancient fishes were not just spawning in the water like salmon. They were copulating, like sharks and stingrays do today. Our discovery had just defined the oldest known act of sexual intimacy.
Placoderm embryo fish fossilWith further research we turned up fossil evidence of the oldest male sexual organs, bony claspers for passing sperm into the females, and other embryo fossils, which demonstrated that the copulatory act was much more widespread in early fish evolution than previously thought. Each of the major discoveries were published the prestigious journal Nature with ensuing world wide media coverage. Our discovery even made it in to the 2010 Guinness Book of World Records for ‘oldest live birth.’So how do ancient fish claspers relate to human sexuality? As previously mentioned placoderms were the first vertebrates to have paired rear fins and these structures formed the male reproductive organs, or ‘claspers.’ In essence part the skeletal structures of the leg hived off to become a pair of penises. Later in evolution after fishes left the water to invade land, all reproduction was necessitated through internal fertilization (all reptiles bird and mammals), and the need for paired male organs varied. Many birds lost the penis entirely and now use cloacal kissing to shed sperm, some completing the act in just one-tenth of a second.
The link in all this to us is through certain homeobox genes that make the reproductive organs. Hoxd13 is vital to building both limbs and genital organs in fishes and humans, so the origins of its expression can be traced back to the ancient placoderms whose early copulatory structures were simply part of the hind paired fins, the equivalent structures to our legs. When we say that ‘we like to get a leg over’ to have sex, for placoderms it really was ‘getting a leg in.’
CGI restoration of the ancient placoderm Materpiscis giving birth to its pup 380 million years ago. Such discoveries imply they were mating by copulation (image courtesy of Museum Victoria)Such discoveries in science raise a more overarching philosophical conundrum. How does what we observe in nature impact on human perceptions of our own sexuality? My review of sexual behavior in the animal world uncovered many cases of homosexual behavior (now documented in over 1,500 species from bedbugs to koalas), as well as bizarre cases of necrophilia, fruit bates species that practice fellatio and some that utilize male lactation, erotic cannibalism (preying mantises and certain spiders), even the the peculiar case of certain ducks using explosive penile erection (a Muscovery duck can evert its 7-inch penis at 75 miles per hour).
Some barnacles shed their penises and regrow new ones according to the changing nature of their environment. Yet despite all these references to male genitalia, perhaps the game changer in evolution is the recent discovery of sperm competition and how many females of species are taking control of sexual selection by selecting the best sperm for their offspring after several mating events. They do this through a variety of internal anatomical systems, and some scientists have suggested humans to a lesser degree utilize this as well.
All of these cases are not mere anecdotal information, but scientifically verified work published in respectable peer-reviewed journals. What nature is saying to us is clear: the vast array of human sexual behavior is not unnatural as defined by what nature does itself.